Ohh pet peeves how you easily irritate me, how you get under my skin, how you make my blood boil and annoy the crap out of me… Why do we have pet peeves? Where does it stem from? What can we do to not let our pet peeves irritate us into a fireball of anger, and be more like a calm Monk to smile at the peeves while keeping a low heart rate? Let’s find out…
What is a pet peeve?
:something that annoys or bothers a person very much :a frequent subject of complaint. Its first usage was around 1919. The term is a back-formation from the 14th-century word peevish, meaning “ornery or ill-tempered”.
What’s funny is that we all seem to have pet peeves, some things more people relate to like mosquitos swarming you and biting you, so you become angry and look like a crazy person while swatting and clapping at the skeeters, but from afar looks like you’re doing karate moves at the air around you… How about driving in general, slow people, drunk drivers not staying in their lane, speeders zooming past your car, and not to forget people driving too close behind you, so your options are to either cuss, flick them off, or drive really slow so they pass you by angrily… Yah, we drivers have all been there! Those are things that annoy us frequently, hence ‘pet peeve.’ But there are other pet peeves that only a few select people have that would not bother the majority of the population as well.
How does a pet peeve come about?
It is said that pet peeves are a form of a habit, a feeling we get that stems from our past every time the peeve happens. It’s something we have disliked and has brought us out of our comfort zone which we hold on to over the years. That pet peeve (whatever it is!) is triggered every time it comes about, and brings back that same feeling as it did the first time. It’s considered a habit because we decide (allow)to hold on to this feeling when the annoyance comes about each time. It’s an interesting scientific perspective on pet peeves, what do you think?
How do we lower our heart rate and become Monk-like when these peeves occur?
- Acknowledge the pet peeve– Yup! I am aware of that fact, some people just don’t have common sense… take a breath!
- Resolve the situation– don’t complain about it, that will only keep you in the negative… if you can walk away! If you can’t walk away, practice patience and teach the person how to handle a certain situation differently. And if you can’t teach the person, simply take your deep breaths and cuss quietly to yourself (a good swear word or two always feels great to say!)- you can’t see me, but I’m winking ‘wink-wink’
- Don’t take it personal– that’s a big one people! Most of these pet peeves are not done on purpose, unless you’re married or have siblings that want a good laugh!
- Learn to live with the pet peeves– Let’s face it accepting even unfortunate things makes life more manageable… tell yourself you’re a pet peeve to others at times, it’s kind of like the circle of life in some respect!
- When your pet peeve occurs, picture a Monk, then picture yourself as a Monk… Mindfulness! ah, that’s the trick! :the quality or state of being mindful, :the practice of maintaining a nonjudgmental state of heightened or complete awareness of one’s thoughts, emotions, or experiences on a moment-to-moment basis; also : such a state of awareness. Webster Dictionary
Some Examples of Peeves
Here’s a pet peeve for parents, cooking up a meal only to have you’re little ones stare and poke at it and tell you they don’t want it… I think what we should all do is print a big copy of this and hang it on the dining room wall, when you place the great smelling wonderful tasting food on the table and you begin to see their noses scrunch up and stick out their picky taste bud tongues, then say nothing (it’s a waste of breath) just point to the photo with your facial expression ‘too damn bad young one!'(problem solving here!) then finish your food fast and eat a great tasting dessert right in front of them, and don’t forget to say mmmm! Just think, if the poster on the wall works, and all you have to do is point at it and they eat (after sulking for 2 seconds) than that’ll be worth more than a Picasso painting!
You may feel this way as you sit next to a loud chewing person, but please refrain from slapping! A little harsh! Instead chew even louder to block out their loudness… just kidding! Focus on something else and keep telling yourself how much this person means to you, ha!
What a great way to make money, there’s a lot of whining out in the world!
The number one pet peeve that cannot be beat are temper tantrums, holy crap! it’s like our beautiful children turn into goblins with part alien and dinosaur mixed in them. Where did you put the ear plugs, scotch, and blindfold?… to not listen, to ease your nerves and to cover your eyes so you don’t have to see this hideous act bestowed upon you.
Well, my work here is done, hope you enjoyed reading this pet peeve post. Remember to ‘Keep Calm.’ Feel free to add your pet peeves in the comments section!
picture 1 by: zazzle.com.au
Tantrum picture by: locallocale.wp.com
chewing loud picture by: favim.com
whinning picture by: sodahead.com