How Do People Define Themselves And Others?
You’re being introduced to a person, you make eye contact, your hand reaches out grasps the other persons hand as you formerly shake to begin your introduction, to get to know each other. After a hello, an exchange of names, a how are you, the next question is usually ‘so what do you do for a living?’ Now to most people this question is a more in-depth analysis of the other, they are most likely going to categorize you in a group, a social class, an overview of your personality and make a judgement or perception of ‘who you are’ in the world.
‘Oh wow, you’re a brain surgeon!’ As the person thinks simultaneously, ‘they must be smart, a well put together person who has his life together, and they must live in a nice home, drive a nice car, etc… But does this REALLY define who the brain surgeon is as a person? Does a career tell us someone is good, smart, kind, faithful, determined? the list goes on…
When you’re speaking to others for a first time, how do you feel when its time to answer the job question? If you’re unemployed or have an unwanted job title does it weigh on you to answer this question? Do you feel you’ve let yourself down OR do you feel embarrassed by what others will see you as?
That’s defining yourself through your job, not for who you are! Your job does NOT define you! We have stepped aside from the bigger picture as a society (well I should say the majority of society). We define ourselves through our successes and we have defined success more in terms of what we do for a living than the good hearts we have. Success is not measured by a job title, by how big your paycheck is, it’s measured on the lives you’ve touched, the people you’ve helped, your morals, respect, faith. A successful person is one that goes the extra mile not to make more money but to help, to know that good intent and a caring heart to push the envelope and do what’s right.
A person who defines themselves through their job is more likely to become depressed once the job goes away. A recession, mother natures hurricanes or fires or tornadoes can clear a village can take away jobs, and yet you are still here, you are still a person, you are still who you are whether you have a job or not. So please, I ask that you reevaluate your perception on defining yourself and others, not by their bank account, not by their title, but by the more personal aspects that truly make a person who they are, THEIR VALUES! YOUR VALUES!
Take care readers!
photo 1 by: doesculturematter.org
photo 2 by: allposters.co.uk