He Likes Me, He Likes Me Not
Well congrats, you have a crush… And while you lay there in an open field picking daisies, reciting pedal for pedal ‘he likes me, he likes me not’ (I know it’s he Loves me, he loves me not, but that’s a powerful word/emotion to feel for a crush, so I’ll stick with like!) You are picturing in your head all the future plans you’d love to share with him/her. Ah, that first passionate and perfect kiss you’ll have (leading to more, yes/no?!) That first romantic vacation you take as a couple, how about your crush making you a special dinner, followed by a movie while cuddling on the couch all cozy and warm. Your vision of time with him/her is captivating, it’s butterfly central in your core, it’s lust at it’s finest…How lovely!
Having a crush is fun and frustrating. Does he/she even know you exist? Do you talk to this gorgeous person? Do they know you’re interested? Does this waiting game ‘for something to happen’ (if it does!) fill you with excitement, hope, fear, anxiety, nervousness, and impatience! Man it’s hard to wait when all you want is to be given a chance to see if this chemistry, that has you floating in the clouds, can actually come true! Dang waiting, how in the heck do you pass this slow motion of a time? what can you do to preoccupy your time? We’ll get to that, but first let’s see WHY crushes happen?
What Happens To Our Bodies When We Have A Crush?
Information provided by Fox News interviewing Helen Fisher, PhD, a biological anthropologist.
We zero in on a specific person, for some reason they are all we desire, the chemistry is heavy, that gravitational pull is exuberant. But how on earth does this happen? what is going on in our bodies to create this wanting? It’s haunting in a way, don’t you think?! Well I did my research on this, the best and most reliable source was through Fox News, which stated…
“Someone takes on special meaning to you and you focus on this individual because the dopamine system has been activated,” says Helen Fisher, PhD, a biological anthropologist. “It is what triggers very goal oriented behavior, where no one else matters but your new partner.”
Furthermore, norepinephrine is a stress hormone that increases the heart rate, and may be the reason you feel hot and flustered when that special person notices you.
Fisher says it might also be responsible for that butterflies-in-your-stomach sensation. “It can cause that awkward feeling,” she says. “Sweaty palms, dry mouth, fumbling words.”
The major histocompatibility complex (MHC) is a set of genes that controls cell-surface molecules, which the body uses to tell self from foreign invaders. Based on scent and taste, studies suggest we can pick up on MHC levels in other people, and it’s thought that the more you differ in MHC, the stronger the attraction.
The saying is usually love at first sight, but your nose plays a part too. Pheromones, which are chemical messengers, are theorized—but not proven—to play a part in human sexual attraction. (They’re major players in insect behavior.)
Fisher also states that she is not a fan of the pheromone theory, but believes smell is a part of love.
“Once you fall for someone, their smell can be a powerful thing,” says Fisher.
And there you have it! Crushes/chemistry affect our bodies in numerous ways, and that’s why certain people stand out more in the crowd, and make us go crazy-bonkers thinking about them (even when we don’t even know them well!) that’s cray-cray if you ask me! (yes, I said cray-cray, I recently read something Jim Carrey wrote the other day, and he wrote Cray-cray which made me laugh, so I am copying that amazing man!)
Preoccupy Your Waiting Time by:
- Being with friends and family. (I know this one is a no brainer, duh Eloise, we already knew that!… okay, okay, sorry!) But being with people makes you focus on the conversations you’re having, and they tend to make you laugh which is good!
- Blast music and dance crazy, jump around, try a cool stunt or two (like jumping over the couch). It’s okay, you’re in your home (shut the blinds if you’d like) and have at it… it’s fun people! (And NO mom I do NOT do this in your home~ muah ha ha!)
- Play a sport. put your athletic gear on, your good shoes and hit the basketball court, or the trail and run, or yoga, OR the gym… whatever exercise you like, do it! It’ll get you to focus on what you’re doing and it’ll get you fit incase Mr or Ms Right comes along… you’ll be looking strong and tone for that crush of yours.
- Reread a good book. Pick up that favorite book of yours and start reading, you can’t read and picture what’s happening in the book WHILE thinking of your crush at the same time (at least I don’t think you can?! hats off to you if you can!) Oh, you can even visit my blog more, I’ve got over 100 posts to keep you busy! (that’s me winking to you because my idea was very smart and awesome!… you’re welcome!)…oh, and thank you for reading my posts!
- Can anybody say ‘Adult coloring books?!’ get your favorite go-to-stress-reliever coloring book and gel pens and color a pretty picture…MASTERPIECE! You are good at coloring!
- If you gave him/her your number (you brave soul!) and they aren’t texting or calling right away… put your phone in another room if you cannot control yourself, jumping up to see if it was him/her that made your phone ring/buzz/ play a song… you’re going to drive yourself nuts with this… So stick with the ‘out of sight out of mind’ approach.
- Run your errands, do your job, take care of what needs to get done, and then do extra! just keep yourself busy with every day things… life goes on as normal!
- Keep your eyes open for other fish in the sea… googling gaga at other yummy people in the world while you’re in the waiting zone is quite fun! Be the young puppy you are and drool over others, they might end up being another crush that doesn’t make you wait an un-godly amount of time, while they build up the courage to make a move OR tell you they’re not interested. Then if your first crush comes around you can, in the nicest way possible, say ‘you snooze, you loose!’ (OMGoodness, just kidding- well maybe!)
Well, that’s all I have today, I hope you learned a thing or two and that I have helped some hopeless romantics out there in some way. Cheer up, live life crazily and laugh a ton.
2nd photo by: sweetmissfifi.blogspot.com