…And here she is again, Tracey Clayton with an amazing message to us all. I absolutely LOVE this article and I hope you do too! Welcome back to the TwinCitiesView Tracey! ~wink~
Help Your Child Shoot for the Moon and Land among the Stars
All parents see their kids as the best in the entire world, and that is normal. The trouble is that the world doesn’t love our kids the same way we do, and becoming successful and happy depends more on the rest of the world than on the parents. All children are born with the potential of achieving great stuff, it is in the years after when they build up on that potential, or leave it behind. Fortunately, this is the part where parents can help. We can encourage our little ones to dream big and to try to make their dreams come true. Here are some ways you can do that.
Teach by example
Children look up to their parents, and if they notice your lack of confidence for pursuing your dreams, it is highly likely that they too will learn to settle for less. This doesn’t mean that you have to be power-hungry and ambitious. You just need to be willing to stand up for yourself, have a strong sense of self-worth and show them that you are following your heart and that you, or any other person for that matter, shouldn’t be exclusively labeled as a parent, entrepreneur, housewife, etc. It is also very important never to speak badly about yourself in front of them.
Encourage their interests
Kids show signs of their interests very early, and sometimes those signs go without us even noticing them, since they are just subtle hints. Keep an eye open for such hints, and once you notice them try to encourage your little ones to dive deeper into them. For example, your child may love to draw everything she sees, and that seems like a good reason to sign her up for an art course. Or if your kid just can’t stop running, she may be a perfect fit for athletics. Remember it would be very bad to sign them up to dozens of extracurricular activities. Focus on one or two, and see what they could be passionate about.
Help them build their confidence
In order to get a chance to reach for success, kids need to have faith in themselves. Luckily, self-confidence is something that can be taught. And it all begins with a feeling of competence. A child should have a positive perception of her abilities, which arises out of small and big achievements, as well as loving and supporting parents. It is quite simple: speak in encouraging tone, give praise when praise is due, help your child set realistic goals, teach that failure is a lesson and give them independence in certain tasks and decisions.
Let them dream big
Dreaming big doesn’t have to be unrealistic. While conquering Mars could be slightly outside our reach, hopes and aspirations for meaningful careers are never bad, especially if you are with them every step of the way. Your role extends from telling them “Yes, you can” when they think they can’t do something to getting them help with university admissions when the time comes.
Cultivate love for learning
Learning is the foundation of almost every success in life and a bridge to becoming a better and more fulfilled person. However, a majority of kids look at learning as a boring chore they have to do. Change that early on, by getting your kids excited over acquiring new knowledge. Show them that learning can be exciting, by giving them fun facts from history or teaching math through a game. It is imperative never to use studying as a punishment, because the kids will see it negatively and that will be very difficult to change.
Emotional intelligence matters too
Most parents emphasize academic success as the only form of acceptable achievement that is acceptable. This is sad, because social skills make that crucial difference between the achievers and non-achievers. Not only that the kids who gain friends easily will be happier, but they will also grow to be people with great negotiating skills who can turn every situation to their advantage.
There are plenty more ways to encourage your child’s dreams, but ultimately, it all comes down to the love and support the child gets from the parents.
Tracey Clayton is a full time mom of three girls. She feels she knows a thing or two about raising happy, healthy and confident kids, and offers helpful advice in hers parenting articles. Her motto is: “Live the life you love, love the life you live.”
I hope you readers found this article inspiring. Let it motivate you to be the best supporters of your kids (no matter their age!)